flagitious time

Its been really some hard couple of months. The reason for it is that I just wrote my third sem. Trust me they require a lot of creativity. Not because they have a motive to stimulate your gray cells, but because they function on the principle of flushing down facts your system and later puking them out on paper. I have never been used to that sort of mugging up till my high school and had to resort to my creativity to bail me out and creativity is just getting better with each sem. God save the person correcting my papers, he or she will learn a lot of new theories and loads of ornamental English which I so hate to use. Hypocrisy is what I learnt till my third end sems. Hypocrisy because, I sat there deriving equations, having no clue about their meaning whatsoever. Partly my fault too, I could have sat down and tried to understand them. But the enormity of my syllabus dawned on me just before my ******* exams (I do not abuse, but I have feelings.) It wasn’t late to learn, you don’t need time for that. It was late to mug up. Too late. I had to learn how to mug up before that.



It seems the education system is too obsessed with churning out things. The cause seems to be lack of interest in learning and lack of faith in intelligence. Rote-learning maybe a boon to those who lack comprehensibility but have a dump yard of a brain, but it is breeding mediocrity.Its multiplication is far more continuous and difficult to stop. When we finally grow up to make a life for ourselves, do we have to sit and derive equations? Aren’t they always readily available to us? Do we have to sit and prove things which have already been proved? I’d rather like a question where you are asked to justify or contradict something instead of puking the answer out.


Now don’t get me wrong, I do not say all this because I consider myself incredibly brilliant or something, it all boils down to the fact that I am inherently lazy. So on a personalized level it is a pain to sit and mug up stuff, it would be just so much easier if we learn or understand something and just put it to some use or to some argument. Don’t the teachers get bored reading the same proofs each and every time or the wrong versions of it? Somehow I’d like to ban rote-learning, it is good for parrots, it’s a torture for guys like me . God, these teachers they mugged up this stuff when they were in college and to read it year after year!! Routine, Monotony are disorders according to me. They should be treated and the advertisers of rote learning need some help .


As for me, I have decided that I’ll have to learn to add this disorder in me for my remaining two and half years,in someway i already got this thing. It’ll save me the torture I went through in my past sem exams, the torture of knowing that I might do badly in an exam because the questions and the required method bores me. Guess, you have to be part of the system before you change it. Don’t worry I am not just quoting. There is a lot of stuff I plan to do when I become the Prime Minister or something.


Till then go mug up stuff.

Guys and Girls Friendship

It’s really a common question and everybody seems to have an opinion; can guys and girls really be just friends? Depending on whom you ask you get a variety of answers.



Whether or not a guy and a girl can be just friends depends on how the friendship started, on whether or not there is a physical attraction involved, and on the personalities of the individuals.


Readers plz be bit careful while reading all these opinions of me.All these things had been written by me after years of experience,so do not use enough of your mind while reading it.Just take it light heartedly.
So lets continue with my bazard thinking...

There really is no good reason why members of the opposite sex can’t have important and close friendships with one another. Objections to these types of friendships come from a crude cultural belief that all guys view girls as sexual objects first and real people second. This is just plain stupid and does a disservice to males and females.

While there are situations where physical attraction is a factor it is rarely so overwhelming that it makes a friendship impossible. When physical attraction does get in the way of being friends it isn’t always the guy who is struggling with those feelings. Yes, girls do lust after guys as much as guys lust after girls.


Whether or not that lust stifles a budding friendship or destroys an existing one is entirely dependent on the person having the feelings. Guys and girls can be friends if they really want to be friends. It only gets complicated if there is physical attraction involved that is not handled properly.

I would like to clear to the readers that i am not talking about the general friendship ...all this stuff is for close friendship.

The most difficult thing in a cross-sex friendship is to distinguish between romantic and friendly feelings.People don't know what feelings are appropriate toward the opposite sex, unless they're what our culture defines as appropriate, "You know you love someone and enjoy them as a person, but not enough to date or marry them. What does this mean????


Society may not be entirely ready for friendships between men and women that have no sexual subtext. People with close friends of the opposite sex are often barraged with nudging, winking and skepticism: "Are you really just friends?"


These obstacles may seem numerous and formidable, but male-female friendship is becoming not only a possibility but also a necessity.


Not until high school does puberty really draw boys and girls together, which then continues into college. But as people develop serious relationship or get married, making and maintaining cross-sex friendships becomes harder.Even the most secure people in a strong marriage probably don't want a spouse to be establishing a new friendship, especially with someone who's very attractive.

Men Benefit More from Cross-Sex Friendship

There are proven—and apparent—distinct differences between female friendship and male friendship. Women spend the majority of their time together discussing their thoughts and feelings, while men tend to be far more group-oriented. Males gather to play sports or travel; rarely do they share feelings or personal reflections. This may explain why they seem to get far more out of cross-sex friendship than their female counterparts.


...But Women Benefit, Too


Friendships with men are lighter, more fun, said Miss X. "Men aren't so sensitive about things." What they liked most of all, however, was getting some insight into what guys really think.

Close male-female friends are extremely emotionally supportive if they continuously examine their feelings, opinions and ideas. Males appreciate this because it tends not to be a part of their same-sex friendships ,females appreciate garnering the male perspective.


So while in theory there is no good reason that guys and girls can’t be friends in reality it really depends on the people involved. Some people can pull off opposite sex friendships and some people can’t.


In the end i would like to thanx Dr. C.F (close friendship) for his views.