Guys and Girls Friendship

It’s really a common question and everybody seems to have an opinion; can guys and girls really be just friends? Depending on whom you ask you get a variety of answers.



Whether or not a guy and a girl can be just friends depends on how the friendship started, on whether or not there is a physical attraction involved, and on the personalities of the individuals.


Readers plz be bit careful while reading all these opinions of me.All these things had been written by me after years of experience,so do not use enough of your mind while reading it.Just take it light heartedly.
So lets continue with my bazard thinking...

There really is no good reason why members of the opposite sex can’t have important and close friendships with one another. Objections to these types of friendships come from a crude cultural belief that all guys view girls as sexual objects first and real people second. This is just plain stupid and does a disservice to males and females.

While there are situations where physical attraction is a factor it is rarely so overwhelming that it makes a friendship impossible. When physical attraction does get in the way of being friends it isn’t always the guy who is struggling with those feelings. Yes, girls do lust after guys as much as guys lust after girls.


Whether or not that lust stifles a budding friendship or destroys an existing one is entirely dependent on the person having the feelings. Guys and girls can be friends if they really want to be friends. It only gets complicated if there is physical attraction involved that is not handled properly.

I would like to clear to the readers that i am not talking about the general friendship ...all this stuff is for close friendship.

The most difficult thing in a cross-sex friendship is to distinguish between romantic and friendly feelings.People don't know what feelings are appropriate toward the opposite sex, unless they're what our culture defines as appropriate, "You know you love someone and enjoy them as a person, but not enough to date or marry them. What does this mean????


Society may not be entirely ready for friendships between men and women that have no sexual subtext. People with close friends of the opposite sex are often barraged with nudging, winking and skepticism: "Are you really just friends?"


These obstacles may seem numerous and formidable, but male-female friendship is becoming not only a possibility but also a necessity.


Not until high school does puberty really draw boys and girls together, which then continues into college. But as people develop serious relationship or get married, making and maintaining cross-sex friendships becomes harder.Even the most secure people in a strong marriage probably don't want a spouse to be establishing a new friendship, especially with someone who's very attractive.

Men Benefit More from Cross-Sex Friendship

There are proven—and apparent—distinct differences between female friendship and male friendship. Women spend the majority of their time together discussing their thoughts and feelings, while men tend to be far more group-oriented. Males gather to play sports or travel; rarely do they share feelings or personal reflections. This may explain why they seem to get far more out of cross-sex friendship than their female counterparts.


...But Women Benefit, Too


Friendships with men are lighter, more fun, said Miss X. "Men aren't so sensitive about things." What they liked most of all, however, was getting some insight into what guys really think.

Close male-female friends are extremely emotionally supportive if they continuously examine their feelings, opinions and ideas. Males appreciate this because it tends not to be a part of their same-sex friendships ,females appreciate garnering the male perspective.


So while in theory there is no good reason that guys and girls can’t be friends in reality it really depends on the people involved. Some people can pull off opposite sex friendships and some people can’t.


In the end i would like to thanx Dr. C.F (close friendship) for his views.